Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Civil Disobedience- Presiding at Same Gender Weddings in March 2004


Daily Freeman - News - 03/28/2004 - New Paltz inn hosts 11 more same-sex weddings 03/28/2004
New Paltz inn hosts 11 more same-sex weddings
                  
          


NEW PALTZ - Same-sex couples exchanged marriage vows Saturday in New Paltz for the fifth consecutive weekend.
Eleven couples were wed outside the LeFevre House bed-and-breakfast on Southside Avenue, bringing to 99 the number of gay weddings performed in the village since Mayor Jason West presided over the first ceremonies at the Village Hall on Feb. 27.
Saturday's ceremonies were conducted by three Unitarian Universalist ministers - Frank Hall, Lyn Plumb and Ed Thompson - and United Church of Christ minister Tomi Jacobs.West and Unitarian minister Kay Greenleaf, both of whom have been charged with violating the state's Domestic Relations Law for marrying unlicensed couples, attended Saturday's nuptials but did not participate.
A spokesman for New Paltz Equality Initiative, the group organizing the weddings, said no same-sex weddings will be performed next weekend in New Paltz and that the ceremonies will resume the weekend of April 10. After that, ceremonies will be held every other weekend, he said.




Sermon preached in June 2010 by Rev Tomi Jacobs-Ziobro

June 20, 2010

2 Kings 4:1-7 Now the wife of a member of the company of prophets cried to Elisha, "Your servant my husband is dead; and you know that your servant feared the LORD, but a creditor has come to take my two children as slaves."
Elisha said to her, "What shall I do for you? Tell me, what do you have in the house?" She answered, "Your servant has nothing in the house, except a jar of oil."
He said, "Go outside, borrow vessels from all your neighbors, empty vessels and not just a few. Then go in, and shut the door behind you and your children, and start pouring into all these vessels; when each is full, set it aside."
So she left him and shut the door behind her and her children; they kept bringing vessels to her, and she kept pouring. When the vessels were full, she said to her son, "Bring me another vessel." But he said to her, "There are no more." Then the oil stopped flowing.
She came and told the man of God, and he said, "Go sell the oil and pay your debts, and you and your children can live on the rest."

Galatians 3:23-29
Now before faith came, we were imprisoned and guarded under the law until faith would be revealed. Therefore the law was our disciplinarian until Christ came, so that we might be justified by faith. But now that faith has come, we are no longer subject to a disciplinarian, for in Christ Jesus you are all children of God through faith. As many of you as were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ. There is no longer Jew or Greek, there is no longer slave or free, there is no longer male and female; for all of you are one in Christ Jesus. And if you belong to Christ, then you are Abraham's offspring, heirs according to the promise.

Pray
Some of what I will share with you this morning came from a sermon I heard back in 2004 when I was part of a UCC NY Confence delegation that traveled to the annual meeting of the Iglesia Pentecostal de Chile.
Bishop Ulises Munoz preached an inspirational sermon using this text, mind you it was in Spanish, but despite my lack of fluency I was moved by his words that Sunday.
I also want to make note of the fact that the passage just after this one is the text that was used at my ordination service 9 years ago in June 01
I am very fond of the prophet Elisha and his encounters with these women of the 4th chapter of 2Kings

a creditor has come to take my two children as slaves.
Now as a pastor and chaplain people have come to me with lots of strange calamities, and I am sure there are others among us this morning that have been presented with all sorts of problems
But this is a dilemma I am not ever likely to hear
That someone’s children will be sold into slavery because they have no money to pay their credit card or loan
But back in the day this was acceptable and is mentioned in the OT in Exodus and everyone’s favorite, Levitical law
It was acceptable for parents to sell their children into slavery.
But according to our text this son and daughter would be taken against their mothers will
This is not something we can relate to, is it?
Especially on a day we celebrate Dads and the accomplishment of our grads
Its not something we can relate to
Although there are some of us who can remember the draft… seeing older brothers or family members or friends and the relatives of classmates or perhaps you obliged to go to war in Vietnam or WW2 or Korea
But no debt was involved… except our debt to America as citizens
In our times there are countless fictional and real life stories of surrogate mothers… women who carry children for someone else… usually for pay, with varying degrees of success
I thought about it myself, but I don’t think I could have given up a baby I had bonded with.
But can we imagine being compelled to sell our children?
In the US when families can’t adequately care for their children we may take them away to foster care.
And yet all over the world women do give up their babies and children (for a price sometimes) to couples and singles who can better afford to raise them.
For monetary reasons this woman was being threatened with having her children taken away, to pay a debt. 
A debt her husband probably incurred before his death
She was in need, desperate need

Who here this morning has a need?  Desperate or otherwise?
Perhaps your need is
    to wake up?
    a cup of coffee?  A cookie?
    More time
    new shoes?
    another place to live?
    another chance with someone you love?
    some hope?
    healing?
It can be difficult to admit our needs, even in church.
Do we really believe that God can meet our needs?
God helps those who helps themselves… does not appear in the bible
What are your needs?
Do you believe God can meet them?

This nameless mother and widow comes to the holy man, Elisha asking for help and what is his response? 
What shall I do for you?  What do YOU have in the house?
what does she have that she might begin to help herself with, not that he will just wave a wand and make it all better
And what is her response?  I have nothing…. except a jar of oil.
She surmised that she had nothing, she was beyond being able to help herself without some assistance and direction.
She felt she had nothing, that all was lost, that there was no hope.
Have you felt that way?
Panicked?  Like it was over, there was no hope?

I brought in a few vessels this morning
jars, bottles
different sizes and shapes
color does not matter
some will hold less while others can hold a lot
some may have chips or cracks and require special treatment

what she needed was not in her home
what she needed was outside, she needed to borrow it or ask of it from her neighbors
She needed the help and assistance of others to save herself and her children, she could not do it alone.
She was dependent on the community to find the means to salvation and she could not even do the asking for help alone, her children were needed to participate with her.
She and her family were to be bold in asking for help, in asking for as many vessels/jars as the neighbors could give.

So how might this apply to us?
Is it possible that what we need is not here among us, but rather is outside?
That Sunday morning Obispo said the real congregation is not here, but out there, out the doors.
Is what we need to be found in someone, a jar, a vessel who is not here because we have not invited them?
 As you graduate, move on… despite your feeling of accomplishment and independence, you are still an intricate part of a wider community
Part of a family who has helped you become the vessel you are
And part of a church family
It is good to remember the ways you have been filled when you are empty, by your family and church family
And that the journey continues
there will continue to be times you need to remember to ask for help, for empty jars
there will be times you are the one asked for help and you will need to give your empty jars
times you even need to help someone ask for help, to find jars
that you are always in community part of your family, whether near or far.
you are not alone, you will continue to need others who in turn need you

And the story also implies that we need to be empty in order to be filled.

If we are so full of ourselves then perhaps there is no room for God’s Spirit to fill us.
If we, as individuals and as a faith community, seem so full or self sufficient, that we have no needs then we may be short changing the Spirit.
What is it you may need to let go of to be filled with God’s spirit?

But let us be sure to remember that despite our need to participate, to seek jars from among our friends and neighbors
and our need to be empty jars that can be filled, able to receive the Spirit
it is not really up to us alone, we are not alone
it is not how long we work, though I do think we need to take the risk of asking, it is up to God,
it is in God’s hands. Amen

Monday, January 26, 2015

Sermon for February 1, 2015

1 Corinthians 8:1-13
Now concerning food sacrificed to idols: we know that "all of us possess knowledge." Knowledge puffs up, but love builds up. Anyone who claims to know something does not yet have the necessary knowledge; but anyone who loves God is known by him.

Hence, as to the eating of food offered to idols, we know that "no idol in the world really exists," and that "there is no God but one." Indeed, even though there may be so-called gods in heaven or on earth — as in fact there are many gods and many lords — yet for us there is one God, the Father, from whom are all things and for whom we exist, and one Lord, Jesus Christ, through whom are all things and through whom we exist.

It is not everyone, however, who has this knowledge. Since some have become so accustomed to idols until now, they still think of the food they eat as food offered to an idol; and their conscience, being weak, is defiled. "Food will not bring us close to God." We are no worse off if we do not eat, and no better off if we do. But take care that this liberty of yours does not somehow become a stumbling block to the weak. For if others see you, who possess knowledge, eating in the temple of an idol, might they not, since their conscience is weak, be encouraged to the point of eating food sacrificed to idols? So by your knowledge those weak believers for whom Christ died are destroyed. But when you thus sin against members of your family, and wound their conscience when it is weak, you sin against Christ. Therefore, if food is a cause of their falling, I will never eat meat, so that I may not cause one of them to fall.



Pray
By Rev Tomi Jacobs-Ziobro

Now I am aware that the middle chapters of the apostle Paul’s 1st letter to the church in Corinth are not the easiest chapters to listen to, read or preach about.
Paul takes time out to have "a word to the church," dealing with issues of marriage, sexual morality, being single, eating and dietary matters, and disciplining the body and its cravings.
From mid-January to mid-February, the Revised Common Lectionary gives us a series of readings from the heart of 1Corinthians.
Our passage today explores the nature of personal authority and our responsibility for the way our actions – even matters of personal preference – shape the lives of others.

There's nothing more personal than our food choices.
But as I said personal choices are never completely personal.
They always have an impact on the community, which is why Paul makes a connection between food and the health of the church.
In his first letter to the Corinthians, he uses the question of eating meat as a springboard for discussing how Christians should treat one another.

The apostle begins with a clear statement of his belief that love is more important than knowledge.
By doing this he immediately undermines anyone who feels that he has superior knowledge on the question of whether a Christian should eat meat that has been sacrificed to idols.
"Knowledge puffs up, but love builds up," insists Paul, clearly expressing a preference for the power of love, which builds up the body of Christ (8:1). He goes on to say that love is the key to having a relationship with God because "anyone who loves God is known by him" (v. 3).

So exactly what is happening in Corinth that is causing such a food fight? New Testament scholar J. Paul Sampley explains that the tradition in Greece was to sacrifice an animal to a pagan god, burn some of the flesh on the altar, and then eat the rest of the meat in a festive meal.
Kind of like a worship service followed by a barbecue.
Except the remainder of the sacrificial animal was then sold to the meat market, and merchants would turn around and sell it to the public.
For most residents of Corinth, this was no problem.
But for Christians who did not worship pagan gods, there was serious discomfort about eating steak that had been sacrificed to idols.
And unfortunately, these roasts popped up all over the place:
In the market, in the homes of non-Christian neighbors, and in public festivals that were important places to make personal, political and business connections.

So what were the Christians of Corinth to do?
They didn't want to eat food that was considered to be sacrificed to other gods, but they also didn't want to live in isolation from the larger world.

Paul reminds them that no idol in the world really exists, and there's no God but the one Lord God (v. 4).
Paul admits that there may be "so-called gods in heaven or on earth," but for the Christian community "there is one God, the Father, from whom are all things and for whom we exist, and one Lord, Jesus Christ, through whom are all things and through whom we exist" (vv. 5-6).

God is the source of all that exists, even meat sacrificed to idols.
Jesus is the Lord through whom all things exist.
Since God created everything and called it good, no food should be off limits to us. 

Problem solved, right? Wrong!

Remember, Paul's more concerned about Christian behavior than he is about the status of idol meat.
He knows that since some Christians "have become so accustomed to idols until now, they still think of the food they eat as food offered to an idol; and their conscience, being weak, is defiled" (v. 7). They think and feel they are eating idol meat.
Even though Paul knows that idols are figments of the pagan imagination, he also realizes that some Christians are going to get sick to their stomachs if they eat idol meat, or if they see other church members eating such food.
He warns them to "take care that this liberty of yours does not somehow become a stumbling block to the weak" (v. 9).

My friend, theologian, Rev Dr Bruce Epperly shared on a blog how he discovered the power of influence and personal authority as the grandparent of a toddler:
his lively and creative grandchild is constantly looking at the adults around him – “he laughs at the things that are humorous to us; he wants to play with our toys and act out our hobbies
(by “toys,” he means tennis rackets and golf clubs, but also computers, cell phones, and kindles/nooks); and our words and interests shape his words and interests.”
Bruce likes detective shows but chooses to refrain from watching violent or sexually implicit or explicit programs in the presence of his young grandsons.
He is not a prude but realizes that all of us are responsible for the vulnerable in our midst – and that is all of us… at one time or another – in terms of their moral lives, spiritual growth, and physical well-being.

In his letter to the folks in Corinth Paul notes that even though some of our behaviors or words are in and of themselves harmless and/or innocent, we need to pay attention to their impact on others – especially less mature members of our community.
This is not a matter of co-dependence or over-functioning, but the recognition that our acts do matter and they can often shape the lives of those nearest and dearest to us.

I have a close friend who had a drinking problem … She is an alcoholic.
Her drinking and drugging had contributed to ending our friendship… she went into recovery with Alcoholics Anonymous
her seeking recovery lead to the mending of our friendship
Early in her recovery journey she came to my home… at her request I chose to hide any alcohol I had in my house or not order alcohol when were out because she was still early or “weak” in her recovery process.
I did what I could to help her and not put any temptations or stumbling blocks in her way
That was more than 20 years ago and if we went out now she would not need the same support…

Loving behavior begins with a decision not to be selfish.
For example in a Bible study or small group discussion, you might need to refrain from being the person who feels compelled to offer all the answers.
The life of the church is not all about you; it's about God and neighbor.
You may need to focus on offering only those thoughts that are going to nourish your neighbor and build up the body of Christ.

Each of us need to make the choice to never be obnoxious.
In the life of the church, we're going to encounter a wide range of people who have positions different from our own on politics, parenting, marriage, money management, nutrition, recreation, education, vocation and human sexuality.
Talk with them, respect them, and learn from them. Don't provoke them.

And when we come together with our fellow Christians, we need to remember that everyone is a sinner for whom Christ died -- including yourself (8:11).
Jesus sacrificed his life.
So when you look around, think of what you can sacrifice for others, in harmony with the sacrifice of Christ.
Give up your preference in music, so that others can hear the music that feeds their spirits.
You might even go so far as walking away from an activity that makes you comfortable, and take on a challenge like: working with children, youths, the poor or the disabled.
Sacrifice the pleasure of chatting with friends after worship, and give your attention to a newcomer.

Ultimately Paul is talking about ethics, and he recognizes that it is not a matter of absolutes or unbending principles, but the impact we can have on the people right in front of us.
If our concepts and process harm our neighbors, then our principles are of little value to the communities in which we live in.
If our concepts and process help and respect our neighbors, then our principles are of great value to the communities in which we live.
And we live according to the love of Christ. Amen

Saturday, January 10, 2015

Sermon Text from Rev Tomi Jacobs-Ziobro preached in Kings Ferry New York on July 13, 2014

Matt 13:1-9, 18-23
That same day Jesus went out of the house and sat beside the lake. Such great crowds gathered around him that he got into a boat and sat there, while the whole crowd stood on the beach. And he told them many things in parables, saying: "Listen! A sower went out to sow. And as he sowed, some seeds fell on the path, and the birds came and ate them up. Other seeds fell on rocky ground, where they did not have much soil, and they sprang up quickly, since they had no depth of soil. But when the sun rose, they were scorched; and since they had no root, they withered away. Other seeds fell among thorns, and the thorns grew up and choked them. Other seeds fell on good soil and brought forth grain, some a hundredfold, some sixty, some thirty. Let anyone with ears listen!

"Hear then the parable of the sower. When anyone hears the word of the kingdom and does not understand it, the evil one comes and snatches away what is sown in the heart; this is what was sown on the path. As for what was sown on rocky ground, this is the one who hears the word and immediately receives it with joy; yet such a person has no root, but endures only for a while, and when trouble or persecution arises on account of the word, that person immediately falls away. As for what was sown among thorns, this is the one who hears the word, but the cares of the world and the lure of wealth choke the word, and it yields nothing. But as for what was sown on good soil, this is the one who hears the word and understands it, who indeed bears fruit and yields, in one case a hundredfold, in another sixty, and in another thirty."

Pray
We don’t have to look very far to be reminded of the uncertainty of life
This past Tuesday a family in Smithfield thought it was just another storm and a tornado hit their house killing 4 including a 4 month old baby girl.
Last Sunday while we worshipped together, my friend Shirl died in Maryland after suffering the past year from colon cancer- she and her husband Sean were regular attendees of the Craigville Colloquy on Cape Cod- that I leave for today after church… none of us knew when we gathered last July that that would be the last time we were all together- Shirl was 54.

We can turn on the news and witness death and destruction far and wide
At the movies …
The fault in our stars appears to be the movie about young death- that people are raving about.
And even in church…
Last week you shared names of long time members who had recently died

We can look at this tale of the sower/Gardener and seeds and realize that 3 out of 4 seeds are a failure
they fall on soil that does not, cannot allow the seed to take root and grow
the seeds are lost.. gobbled, trampled, wasted- gone

or we could focus on the positive
life goes on after tornados, after we bury the dead
… wounds can heal
and in our parable there is one seed that takes root and brings forth an amazing harvest

let me back up
I said parable
A kind of puzzling tale
In fact they say when you are sure you understand exactly what a parable of Jesus is saying … you could not be farther from understanding..
And this speech of Jesus begins and ends with Listen…Listen
usually a preacher could focus on how we are soil…the seed is the word
how we need to be the right kind of soil  or face birds or the scorching sun… the devil, the cares of the world…. It is all spelled out there
that could be easy, just shaking my finger at all of us… what we need to do to prepare our soil…lalalalala!
But this week I want us to dig deeper…
*I believe that Imagination, an open mind and an open heart, are all needed for parable hearing (perhaps that's why those "little ones" were able to grasp who Jesus was and what he was about).

So what if we tried a slightly different line of thought: 
Barbara B Taylor suggests
what if the story is not about the seeds or soil at all, not about us… but about the sower? The gardener?
What if it is not about our own successes and failures and birds and rocks and thorns but about the extravagance of a gardener or farmer who flings seed everywhere, wastes it with holy abandon…
confident that there is enough seed to go around, that there is plenty, and that when the harvest comes in at last it will fill every barn in the neighborhood to the rafters?"
For Taylor, "The focus is not on us and our shortfalls but on the generosity of our maker" ("The Extravagant Sower" in The Seeds of Heaven).
This farmer is extravagant, just as God throws grace and mercy around, extravagantly, showering them on a world hungry for both, whether it realizes it or not.

So we can focus on the seeds that are lost, the soil that is not ready, the greedy birds… doing what birds do,
the sun that can burn and gives life, the things wrong with the building, the high cost of … everything, the fact that folks just aren’t coming to church, that we toil away and in an instant we can be dead- due to disease or an accident or the wind
And yet
God works great wonders in all situations, and is astonishingly extravagant in offering grace and new life in the harshest of situations.
The farmer is remarkably free in throwing the seed on all sorts of potential "growth areas."
There's no calculation or careful husbandry of the seeds in the farmer’s pocket. 
In the face of all sorts of obstacles and dangers, the farmer counts on the bountiful return of a few seeds; she imagines the plentiful harvest reaped when even a few of the seeds find fertile soil.

Or perhaps we could see ourselves as farmers scattering seed

The story is told:
In the church where a man worshiped there was a lonely old man, old Thomas. He had outlived all his friends and hardly anyone knew him. When Thomas died, this friend had the feeling that there would be no one to go to the funeral so he decided to go, so that there might be someone to follow the old man to his last resting-place.
There was no one else, and it was a miserable wet day.
The funeral reached the cemetery, and at the gate there was a soldier waiting. An officer, but on his raincoat there were no rank badges.
He came to the grave side for the ceremony, then when it was over, he stepped forward and before the open grave swept his hand to a salute that might have been given to a king.
The friend walked away with this soldier, and as they walked, the wind blew the soldier’s raincoat open to reveal the shoulder rank was that of a brigadier general.
The general said, “You will perhaps be wondering what I am doing here. Years ago Thomas was my Sunday School teacher; I was a wild lad and a sore trial to him. He never knew what he did for me, but I owe everything I am or will be to old Thomas, and today I had to come to salute him at the end.”
Thomas did not know what he was doing.
In many ways none of us ever does.
Keep sowing the seed.
We can leave the rest to God

God is good, all the time. All the time
Even in the face of uncertainty… of mortality

it is truly the generosity of God that gives abundantly, the generosity of God that magnifies our best efforts into a "fruitful, extravagant, and altogether gracious yield.
What will be our response… to hoard what we have, try to play it safe?
We are the church, the church is called to 'waste itself,' to throw grace around like there is no tomorrow, precisely because there is a tomorrow, and it belongs to God.  Amen

Rev Tomi Jacobs-Ziobro speaking at a Planned Parenthood Rally in Syracuse March 2011

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8WUGLd47zdI
Follow the above link to a YouTube video of me speaking at a Planned Parenthood Rally in Syracuse in March of 2011.